How important is your sleeping position as a married couple?
There are different things that could lead to couples being emotionally distant from each other. While some are more obvious, others?- not so much. Communication, choice of words and being put down or debased, are all loud ways that lead to emotional distancing pretty quickly but what about your sleeping position?
A sleeping position may seem like the most trivial thing to discuss or even think about for married couples and why are we even discussing the way you sleep? After all, your spouse doesn’t care!
Not so fast…
The sleeping position of a couple is one of the most subtle causes of emotional distancing among married couples that is often overlooked- by very, very many couples (double “very” for emphasis). You should however, know and pay close attention to it because it is a vital and very important part of your marriage. You should also be alert because it creeps in on you when you are totally unaware.
So let’s get to it…
How Does Your Sleeping Position Affect Your Relationship And Intimacy With Your Spouse And Why Is It Important?
How do you sleep? Facing each other? Backing each other? Cuddling each other or sleeping at the far end of the bed?
Is it 69, 11, 1 or a position of backward greater than and less than stuck together forming a somewhat letter “X”-which doesn’t necessarily overlap?
Does that even make sense? Haha.
The point is, married couples take on different unusual sleeping positions at varying times which not only affects the relationship but also shows how the relationship is going. Basically, your sleeping position with your spouse is key because it goes a long way in revealing so much about the state of affairs in your marriage.
A couple who sleeps while cuddling not only show but develop a greater level of intimacy than the one who sleeps in the 11 position or backward facing position. This is not to say that you must always remain glued to each other. Of course, you give room for some tossing and turning every now and then. And there’s also nothing wrong with being able to stretch to keep the blood flowing but this shouldn’t be the regular order of things in your bedroom- which is or should be your safe space.
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So have you recently noticed that your spouse has been overtly quiet and you don’t know what is wrong or even sure if you are the cause of their internal turmoil -or not?
Your sleeping position could tell or reveal a lot. It could give you cues when your spouse is unhappy, sad, angry with you or currently emotionally distant from you. So don’t just assume it’s just a new sleeping style. Ask questions if the new way of your spouse’s position of sleeping or rest is not only strange or unusual but also persistent.
Alert***If you had been sleeping with your bodies apart since the beginning of your marriage, this may not be applicable to you. But if you only noticed a change as time went on…RED FLAG!
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ACTION POINT
If you are reading this and you struggle to know what’s on your spouse’s mind or if your spouse is one who doesn’t like to talk or share much with you (or may be he or she is the type that just expects you to know that something is wrong when he or she hasn’t uttered a word and you are always confused about what to think in such instances), do yourself a favor by paying close attention to both of your sleeping positions at nighttime.
It may just be the pointer to the answer you seek and the ultimate solution to the problem that’s been lingering on your mind for days.
WRAP UP
Your sleeping position as a couple particularly if you started out as being cuddly but bodies begin to drift apart in bed the longer you live together (which could be as a result of either of you wanting some space or still wanting to keep living as a single man or woman in bed even though you are now married), tells a whole lot about your relationship. And the more time passes and this happens, the more emotionally and physically distant you become from each other. The result? – Bad.
But good news! Your sleeping position is also a good thing in a way, it’s a little bell that sounds an alarm that your marriage roof is on fire so you can put it out early enough before things go down south. The only thing you have to do on your part is to pay rapt attention.
Try as much as you can to keep your bodies together as closely as you can. This will help your bonding as a couple, greatly. Did I also mention the cozy mutual body warmth you share while doing so?
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A sleeping position can serve both as a sword and a shield; sword by an unhappy spouse and shield to save a dying marriage and reconnect emotionally distant couples.
What would you do differently or change about your sleeping position with your spouse- tonight?
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