What To Do When You Are In A One-Sided Relationship

A one sided relationship could be difficult to navigate whether you are dating or married.

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Are you the only one putting in all the effort in your relationship to make it work? That can feel like a heavy load to carry and could be very discouraging. Being in a relationship should be fun. You don’t have to continue this way.

Let’s get into what you can do to make your relationship what it’s actually designed to be. But before that, let’s touch on some of the things that could be responsible for your partner acting this way. These are some of the problems that need to be recognized before we talk about what you can do about what’s going on.

Reasons Why Your Partner May be Acting This Way

1. Threat

Does your partner see you as a threat?

Does he see you as someone who wants to arm twist him to do things he doesn’t want to do? This actually leads to a power struggle between the both of you and can make your partner withdraw – which could lead to an imbalance in your relationship.

2. Anger and Bitterness

Your partner might have some unresolved past issues that you may not know about.

This could be something that took place in a past relationship (that has been carried over into this current one). He also could be harboring anger over something that happened to him as a child or have bottled resentment against a close family member -that has caused a disconnect in every other area of his relationships with others including you.

It’s always a good rule of thumb to always discuss your past and childhood experiences when getting to know each other at the beginning of your relationship. It helps a long way in managing your expectations as things progress.

Another root of his anger and bitterness could be as a result of an unresolved issue you both had at some point that never really got resolved (and may be you never even noticed it).

If there is anger and bitterness within him, you could be a victim of his past or present experiences.

3. Lack of Connection

Is there anything you think makes it difficult for your partner to connect with you in what ever you say and do? You might want to pay attention to those triggers that cause him to react instead of responding to you. Is there a lack of chemistry between you both? What do you think led to this?

4. Resentment

Does he despise you for whatever reason? Does he treat you poorly or make you feel less than yourself? Does he pull you down either in your presence or absence? Resentment could be a clog in the wheel of togetherness in your relationship. You need to know why he resents you so you can address it.

5. Insecurity

Is it possible he has some level of insecurity and he is projecting that on you and you don’t seem to understand why or what’s going on? Insecurity could be a problem that causes a distance between partners in a relationship.

What Are Some of The Things You Can Do To Improve or get out of the situation

If you are in a one sided relationship and you always seem to hit a road block each time with your partner no matter what you do, you could:

1. Talk Things Over

You might want to have a heart to heart discussion with your partner on why things are the way they are and try to see how things can be improved so your relationship can move on to the next level.

2. Have Options For Your Partner To Choose From

Whenever you have something you need to make a decision on, instead of trying to impose your own ideas as the the ultimate solution to issues you both may have, try to ask for his own point of view on things.

You could have an open discussion and leave the conversation open for more options by asking things like ” What do you think about this?” and listen up for what he has to say.

3. Be Open To Take Up Other Options

…or strike a balance between the different solutions to the problem at hand- if you think his own solution is to the extreme. Don’t count your partner’s suggestions as inconsequential. You want to make him feel important and let him know his opinion and option is valid.

You need to be open to other options that are not yours though that doesn’t mean your suggestion won’t be the one taken at the end of the day. Be however, open minded to whatever the outcome could be.

4. Give It Your Very Best

Try your best to make your partner come on board with you by the things you say and do. You don’t want to be the one to take the blame for all the inadequacies of the relationship each time. Give it your best input and do all you can to make it work.

5. Leave

After all said and done and you know you are not the problem, this might be the most practical step to take when in a one sided dating relationship.

Though it may be a hard thing to do because there’s love in the mix, this might actually be a good time to walk away to preserve your mental health- if the hassles of the relationship is beginning to take its toll on you.

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Bonus Tips

-Take time to know who you are dating before getting married to avoid matters that touch the heart.

-A one sided relationship could be tiring and exhausting. It can only bring heartaches until things are set right.