The power of a touch…
Touch is one of the senses humans react and are easily responsive to. It’s human nature to not just be loved but be touched. However, this very subtle but powerful remedy is something that’s often overlooked in marriages and relationships.
Sometimes, you don’t need too many words to convey what you feel you need to say. A touch can go a long way in breaking barriers, giving you a free flow of conversation without trying too hard or doing too much.
In many marriages and relationships, some partners neglect touching their spouses or significant others. It’s not a hard thing to do but different things could stand in the way of giving a touch where it’s necessary.
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What are some of these things that stand in the way of the power of a touch -this easy way of loving and avoiding conflicts and marital problems?
1. Ego and pride
2. Feeling too sophisticated
3. Anger and bitterness
4. Lack of remorse
5. Sheer wickedness or cruelty
6. A desire to see your significant other suffer
7. Inability to connect emotionally with your spouse
8. Being domineering
9. Trying not to be vulnerable
10. Some spouses believe it’s a sign of weakness.
A touch is warm and therapeutic. It melts anger and strife and also shows you love and care. A touch is an antidote that helps you deliver what you have to say without even trying. It’s potent, it delivers pretty quickly and it heals rapidly.
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What you have to say to your spouse is important but your content and delivery is a whole package. Words are powerful but not as powerful as when combined with a little touch. A touch shows empathy and love. It reduces stress and relieves pain. It brings peace to the mind of the other and it also does something deep within for you as well.
Your spouse is someone you profess you love the most and not just one who means the world to you, but one that you believe your world would be incomplete without. Except you have someone else in mind or you have somewhere else to go, this is your spouse, your very own love. Do all it takes to make it work. The power of a touch can make things easier for you.
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Sweet words and apologies are good. But try combining it with a touch, a tight hug, holding of the hands, back rubs or something as little as placing your hands on your spouse’s laps. Trust me, the communication is faster if this is done in a sincere and loving way.
Touch your spouse because you love, touch your spouse because you care, touch your spouse for no reason, touch your spouse just because…
If you are a man reading this, A UCLA study found that women need 8-10 meaningful touches every day. In fact, 80% of a woman’s daily need is for nonsexual touching. So, it doesn’t have to be sex. Sex is only a subset of a touch (though this is good too if you are up to it).
A marriage is stronger when you touch each other often. As much as possible, sit closely together when having a conversation, cuddle together while sleeping in bed or just sit on a couch fondling with each other’s hands. Touching your spouse when you pass by each other or planting a kiss on her forehead is not a bad thing either. A quick shoulder rub here and there also helps. It develops a strong connection and gives great re-assurance more than you can imagine.
It’s the little things that count.
…But can a marriage survive without physical intimacy?
Well…yes and no. Yes, because you could hold up for a while but sooner or later, the marriage is bound to hit the rocks. Also, marriage is a whole package and you are well missing much more than just that one area that you think is lagging.
If the only one thing that is holding you back or keeping your home together, is the need for someone to share the love and care of your children with you or may be what you have is the fear of their or your future, then it is likely you have become mere room mates with your significant other, living completely different lives though you both are still hanging out together in a home.
The result of this co-parenting or disconnected relationship scenario in your marriage is that, you would become very bitter and cranky overtime.
…It’s a slow fade.
When you don’t feel loved and valued by the one person who says he loves you the most in the world- your spouse, it’s only a matter of time before things fall apart. When you don’t spend time together doing things you love, this could also be a huge problem.
When next you have a conflict with your spouse, resolve it quickly with your words and with…you guessed it right…a meaningful and therapeutic touch. It really works wonders!
Don’t wait till there’s a conflict before touching your spouse. Go ahead. Reach out and touch. Touch lovingly, touch affectionately and don’t stop touching till you are old and grey…even then, still continue to give a heart felt touch to your significant other.
Bonus Tips:
-Don’t underestimate the power of a touch.
– A touch creates a great bonding.
-It helps you connect with your spouse emotionally.
-Lovingly touch your spouse often for a long lasting marriage.
-A touch is a gem and…it’s free!
When was the last time you touched your spouse…in a loving way?
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