Many couples struggle with challenges in their marriages but there’s one major culprit that hinders harmony and peace in the home. What is this culprit to your marriage success you ask? – PRIDE enters the chatroom…
Whenever there is strife, whether between friends, couples or colleagues, there’s an iota of pride. The truth is, whenever two people are in disagreement and there is no headway in sight, it’s because one of the two parties is either refusing to bulge and totally unwilling to come to a compromise or someone wants to be right and the other is also not ready to accept defeat.
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Think about the last you had an argument with your spouse (if you haven’t, you are doing great!). Who apologized first or was there even an apology at all from either side? How long did it take for that apology to come -if it did come? What did it take to muster those words “I am sorry?” Did you think it was necessary to even apologize? Perhaps you were thinking, you did not do anything wrong so why should you apologize?
Hint: You don’t have to be wrong to apologize to your spouse, you sometimes apologize even when you feel you should not, for peace sakes- both yours and that of your home.
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This form of apology however, doesn’t have to be one sided. You don’t want to take advantage of your spouse as someone who is weak simply because he or she apologized even when right and you both know it or decide to capitalize on it by making your spouse the only one having to apologize all the time. This is not the way to go.
The point in each provoking situation shouldn’t be who is right or wrong, the most important thing should be to analyze what happened or what led to the argument and how it could be avoided next time. Instead of hanging on to the argument or holding a grudge from it, apologize if need be and quickly too. I can tell you and trust me, quick apology brings about tranquility and sanity to the situation pretty quickly. Allowing issues to linger more than necessary because of ego problems does no good for your marriage, rather, it further complicates it.
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To remove this barrier to your marriage success, discuss the way forward by effectively communicating with your spouse. Learn from your mistakes, swallow your pride and not just move on, but move forward.
Do you have to apologize to your spouse? Don’t wait, do it now.
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Bonus Tip
Having the last say in an argument is not necessarily a sign of strength. Apologizing is not a sign of weakness either. You and your spouse are not in a competition.
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