Marriage vow renewal: Should you do it?
Why? And how often should you renew your marriage vows? Many wonder whether or not renewing their marriage vows could be a saving grace to a dying marriage or if it would help keep aflame a waning love between them and their spouses. What camp are you on?
As we know, many relationships actually start out great but when one party stops putting in the effort in the marriage or when you talk and it’s beginning to feel like you are hitting a brick wall, it is a pointer of not so good things. Such a relationship is bound to hit the rocks…it’s only a matter of time.
But first, how do you avoid a burn out and love leak in your marriage before we discuss whether or not your marriage needs a renewal of vows?
Some have said and I believe it is true, that good communication is one of, if not the most important of what you need to have a successful relationship or marriage.
Do you think you have communication issues with your partner? How do you know?
Signs That Your Relationship Is on A Verge With Communication Issues
1. When you begin to second guess yourself when trying to initiate a conversation with your partner.
2. When anytime is not just a good time anymore -No more easy access to the one you love.
3. When you feel uncomfortable around your partner, or you feel that way when you want to talk about your problems, what you are experiencing or anything at that and it doesn’t just feel right.
4. Does he or she try to understand you and what you feel or why you feel the way you do? Is what you feel is important seen as inconsequential?
5. Does he or she actively listen or do they make phone calls, text or fondle with their phones while you are trying to have a serious conversation about something that bothers you -that if addressed would be for the greater good of the relationship and may be those of your children too?
6. Do they laugh it off when you talk and make you feel like a fool? Talk about disrespect!
7. Are your conversations meaningful compared to when you first started out at the beginning of your relationship? Or have they become watered down?
8. Do you feel drained after your conversation than when you decided to have it initially?
9. Do you feel anxious around him or her and you don’t know why?
10. Do you feel trapped because you perceive gaslighting or think you are being manipulated?
11. Do they tell you, you are seeing or imagining things or that you are not just being realistic when you know and they also know that’s not the case?
12. Are you tired of repeating the same things over and over and not seeing any changes?
Related: Are You A Victim of Gaslighting? What To Do About It
Ahhhhh…
Humans are complicated and relationships are no different because relationships are made up of humans.
When these things happen, it is only a signal of something much more deeper… the hanging fruits of a corroded relationship.
And any relationship showing these signs, is one that needs some tender, loving care. A refresher if you choose to term it that way. But one sure way to turn things around or revive what is slipping through your hands if you are in these shoes, is by renewing your marriage vows. Renewing your marriage vows shows recommitment and dedication over again to the one you chose to love forever.
Apart from renewing your marriage vow to keep the spark alive though, it is also important to pay attention to the way the solemn moment is carried out. It has to come from your heart and you have to be very intentional about it.
Related: One Sure Way To Keep Your Relationship From Failing
So How Often Should You Renew Your Marriage Vows If You Choose To?
Partners and couples need to see their marriages or relationships as something that has to be constantly kept fresh between themselves and their spouse.
Think about it, if you can take that much time and effort to deliver your deliverables at work, nothing stops you from putting in same energy (or more) to spend time with the one you profess you love. If you really want to put a number of years to a renewal of a marriage vow, a five year interval marriage renewal reset is a good way to ensure that your marriage does not suffer a burn out.
Express your love to your spouse with these gorgeous flowers
And the good thing about it is that, it does not have to be elaborate, you could do it in the comfort of your bedroom. The vow renewal is meant to be for just the two of you. You could choose to make one of the moments an elaborate ceremony as some do, but you don’t have to do this each time.
As you know, equality doesn’t mean interchangeability in marriage. You are part of your spouse’s journey and you need to realize you are on a team to make it work. If you put the “me” instead of the “we” in your marriage, the marriage is doomed long before it starts. If you however, love your spouse, you are loving yourself and with that consciousness, you are both on your way to achieving great things together.
You should always seek to serve each other and be ready to sacrifice yourself for your spouse. Give your marriage all you’ve got.
WRAP UP
What do you think is holding you back? Is it ego or familiarity? Indeed as they say, familiarity brings contempt. If that’s what you think is the problem, set it aside to have a better relationship; A relationship that pays off in the end. Do not neglect your winning formula.
Rekindle your first love.
Quick Tip!
You do not have to wait for a special occasion to remind your spouse how much you care and show some love.
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