How to relate with your friend’s date, boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse at awkward moments.
Have you ever been in a situation that feels like an awkward moment with your friend’s date? May be boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse?
Okay. You have a friend who has a boyfriend and by the way this goes for the guys as well. You often go over to your friend’s house to hang out and whenever you go over there, your friend’s boyfriend is always there may be not all of the time, but most of the time.
On one of the days you went over as usual, and you met this guy- again but things are a little bit different this time. Your friend steps out briefly and you are left alone in the room or living room or kitchen or wherever with your friend’s boyfriend or girlfriend or spouse as the case may be.
Awkward moment.
Your friend is taking so long in coming back. How do you comport yourself so that your friend doesn’t think you are trying to take over her relationship or feel that something actually happened between you two?
I know some may be reading this and may be thinking, “so your friend doesn’t think you are trying take over her relationship?”. Let’s not deceive ourselves. Some friends don’t trust their significant others with anybody not even with their own mothers in some cases, how much more a friend. If you are trusting of your friend though, you are good on that side which is great! But for those who may for whatever reason be skeptical of having their significant others lounging with their friends in their absence, this is for you.
Pro-tip: I would say if you are not comfortable with your friend being alone with your significant other, you either shouldn’t be hanging out such friends and if for whatever reason you do have such friends, then do all you can to avoid leaving them alone with your significant other. Either ways, this shows there’s some trust issues in the mix either with your friend, significant other- or both.
Let’s dive in!
What To Do In A Socially Awkward Situation:
1. If you feel uncomfortable, or find yourself in an awkward moment, with a friend’s significant other, excuse yourself. Say you want to go to the bathroom; you want to get something from your car real quick or something, say anything to leave that place. Think about it, nervousness sometimes bring about bathroom business. Just go for it!
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2. If you feel the boyfriend is coming at you in your friend’s absence , and if you feel your friend trusts you so much over this guy(especially if this happens early on in their relationship), you could tell her. You shouldn’t be moving with friends who don’t trust you and who you don’t trust in the first place, I mean what are you doing?
I know love between a man and woman could be very delicate. It could be chosen over long standing friendships sometimes. If you however find yourself being torn between telling your friend or letting the situation be, just avoid going to where the guy would be hanging out. Be friends with your friend but stay away from this guy or girl.
3. Don’t put yourself in compromising situations if something feels off about the way things are while your friend is away. For example, the guy comes to sit closer to you or stand closer to you even if he has no motives, adjust quickly. You don’t want your actions to be interpreted the wrong way or that your good intentions of going to your friends for a visit be seen as evil.
4. Mind your own business. You don’t have to talk all of the time. I know the silence may be deafening and you might feel a pressing need for you to break it, if you need to talk, discuss only general things with this person.
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5. Do not do or say things that would make your character questionable. Don’t say things that would make the other person feel like you are coming at them. Or things that would make the other person wonder what you mean. For example, overtly complimenting your girlfriend’s friend or boyfriend’s friend as the case may be. Whether your girlfriend is there or not, could come off or be interpreted as being questionable.
6. If you feel so awkward, leave the house all together and briskly too. Tell your friend you would see her at another time.
Have you ever found yourself in an awkward moment?
