We all want a good guy don’t we?
But is the talk about good guys still being very much out there, a reality or myth?
How do you know a good guy when you see one? Is it by what he is wearing? Is it by the way he speaks or his unique accent? Is it by his looks? What defines a good guy to you when you see one? How do you know a man that is good enough for you?
The qualities of what a good guy is or should be, varies from person to person. To some a good guy is someone who hits and are mean to them. They fall in love with narcissists easily and a regular guy won’t cut it because they are just too nice, while for others, only a true gentle man will do.
In the dating world however, some men have a way of pretending or camouflaging who they are, their personality and character. If you are not conscious of it, you may easily be deceived if you go by only what you see on the surface.
At times, love may also stand in the way of foresight into what a man’s real character is. If this happens, it just means you are in a state of willful self deceit -where you continue to give excuses for what you know is wrong or inherently bad for you (which in most cases, is a cause of regret in hindsight down the line).
So what is that one quality or way to know if a guy is good -and not just good for anyone but good enough for you?
How To Know A Good Guy To Date
If you want to know a good guy when you see one, the one thing you should take note of is this: “how he treats others around him”...and not because he said so (or doesn’t say so).
Now, this actually goes in two different ways:
1. The way he treats others – better than you.
2. The way he treats others – less than you.
These two facets are very important when you are seeking a good guy. You can’t afford to choose the former while neglecting the latter. The result? Bad.
Why is it important to pay attention to the way he treats others -Better than you?
The way a man treats you says a lot about the future you are about to experience with him.
Does he treat you shabbily or like a queen?
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If he doesn’t value you or treats you as nothing or a nobody when dating, there’s no escape, this would likely continue once you get married. There’s no two way about it.
If you are uncomfortable with the way you are treated by your man while dating, don’t choose to turn a blind eye to the reality that’s about to be set in your future. It’s a dangerous precedent that you don’t want to overlook if you want to be truly happy in your marriage (if you end up choosing him to be your partner for life). If he treats others better than you… it can only get worse not better.
Why?
…Because that is who…he is.
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On the flip side…
Why is it important to pay attention to the way he treats others -Less than you?
When seeking to date a woman, there’s a higher probability that a guy would want to particularly please the lady he wants to pursue- at least this is true for the most part. You are his woman, he has a duty to treat you right (all things being equal).
But in the midst of the whole lovey-dovey scenario and while enjoying all the accolades, you should take note of not just how he treats you, but also pay rapt attention to how he treats others around him. Does he have an extreme or high disregard for people? Does he classify them as inconsequential? Does he treat them badly? Is he harsh or mean to them?
And why should you pay attention to the way he treats others; after all, it directly has nothing to do with you?
Because it’s only a matter of time before he treats you the way he treats others in one way or the other.
Once familiarity comes to play, the stage is set for the no play, no game syndrome. He may treat you this way in subtle ways and he acting this way might not necessarily be a daily occurrence…or it may be. It all depends on who the guy is and how willing or unwilling he is, to cater to you.
The dating world is a fun place to be in but it could be challenging if proper precautions are not taken. You need to be free enough to have fun but at the same time wise and tactical enough to know what you stand for and what you really want.
Realizing how a man treats others around him is a tell tale sign of who he really is…pay attention to this and you would have less things to worry about whether or not he is a good man or if he is actually who he says he is.
Is he a good guy?
Bonus tips
-Whatever happens in your dating life or life in general, all boils down to your choices. Choose well…choose happy.
-A good man doesn’t mean a perfect man.
-A man only becomes “perfect” in your eyes when though he is not good enough for anyone else…he is good enough for you.
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