Many couples live apart for different reasons, may be it’s a new business, work, kids in college, extended family or just a desire for personal self development. No matter the reason or situation that led down that path, living apart from your spouse or significant other could be a much dreaded path to thread.
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As a spouse, it’s your desire to want to make the best of every opportunity, as life takes you places you never envisaged and at the same time not sacrifice the very thing that brought you to that point in the first place – your marriage.
Trying to strike a balance between your marriage and gathering what it takes to make it work can be quite challenging.
However, if you find yourself living apart from the love of your life, you don’t have to fret. These are some things you can implement and keep in mind to ensure that your relationship doesn’t turn sour or lose its flame while you both are away from each other.
1. Living apart from your spouse is only temporary
When living apart from your spouse, it is important to remind yourself that your time away from each other would not last forever.
This keeps you optimistic that you would soon be back in each other’s arms in no time.
Constantly reminding yourself of this truth, from time to time keeps you focused and free from any form of distraction while you both are apart, as you look forward to your future of being back together.
2. Call and text each other as often as you can
Don’t wait for your spouse to call first.
If you don’t hear from your significant other and you feel like talking, just go ahead, pick up your phone and call.
Also, text your spouse as often.
Talk about things that happen to you while you are away from each other, whether they are good or not so good. Talk about your daily activities and the highlights of your day. Try to make sure that you both have a daily communication as much as possible.
3. Go on visits as often as you can
Take time to go on visits and make it consistent. This could be either once a month or every two weeks. Also set out a plan on something fun you can enjoy while you are together.
Draw up a plan that fits into your schedule. Make that time, the time of your lives. Make it count and soak it all in. Enjoy it!
4. Take something special along to your spouse
Don’t go empty handed on your visits to your spouse. Get something you know your spouse would appreciate and you don’t have to break the bank for that.
Always remember that it’s the thought behind the gift you give that counts. If your spouse is one that appreciates time than gifts, in such cases, the most important gift you could take along to your spouse, is the gift of yourself.
Make the time you spend together worth the while.
5. Giving should not be one-sided
When you live apart from each other, gift giving shouldn’t be one sided. You and your spouse should show yourselves that you are always thinking of each other.
Surprise gifts are best, they have a way of melting the heart .
6. Avoid Arguments with your spouse
When you live apart from your spouse, avoid things that could lead to arguments especially when you are visiting. Instead, talk about how much you miss each other and how you can’t wait to be back together.
It’s important to keep peace and tranquility in focus when you see each other. If you want to know more about handling arguments and resolving your conflicts with your spouse, you may want to see this post below.
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7. Enjoy your time of being alone
Living apart from your spouse though could be tough but can be well managed if you handle it the right way.
Make up your mind to enjoy your time while your spouse is away.
Don’t allow the thought of living apart from your spouse weigh you down. Seize every moment and enjoy it to the fullest.
8. Find joy in the time you live apart from your spouse
Make every moment count.
Don’t be sad because you live apart from your spouse. Find interesting and exciting things to keep yourself engaged while you are away from each other.
Don’t allow anxiety or depression set in because your spouse is not with you. Be happy for you.
9. Don’t isolate yourself
Living apart from your spouse should not keep you away from friends and family. As a matter of fact, this is a time for you to keep them close to you.
Avoid boredom as much as possible.
Couples who live apart from their spouse sometimes find it difficult to do this, but try as much as possible to avoid being all alone by yourself.
10. Don’t seek pity parties
Don’t seek pity from others because you live apart from your spouse and don’t allow people look down on you either. Find people with shared interests to surround yourself with and not people who will tear or put you down.
Living apart from your spouse is not a disease. You need to realize that this is just a season in your lives and treat it as such and nothing more.
11. Let your heart be full of nothing but love for your spouse
Living apart from your spouse could be a test of the love you both have for each other. Let your heart be full of love and trust for your spouse.
Don’t let your heart waiver in your resolute to see that your journey of living apart ends up in a delightful way.
12. Encourage each other
Both you and your spouse should be a source of encouragement to each other. If your spouse is suddenly beginning to feel discouraged and lonely because you are living apart or your coming together is taking longer than anticipated, do your best to cheer up your spouse in those moments.
Say things that give your spouse the drive to want to forge ahead, knowing that as each day passes, it brings you one day closer to living together as a couple, just the way it ought to be.
Take Away
Living apart from your spouse could be a lonely time because your significant other is away, but you can have the time of your life if you manage the season properly and also overcome all the challenges that pose itself along the way.
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