Do You Stalk Your Ex?
If you are reading this, you or probably a friend need an insight on what to do about moving on with an Ex. However, before we talk about the how…let’s talk about the why.
Have you asked yourself why you stalk your Ex?
Is it because you want them back? Do you wish they can’t move on without you?
You really can’t believe they can, still and will breathe without you or may be you are shocked that the person who had told you times without number that they can’t live without you is actually living and not just living, but living large and having a “wow” time.
Wait. What?!?
Yes…that’s the reality. They are having the best time of their lives apparently.
It hurts I know.
So why do you stalk your Ex? Let me give you a clue…you haven’t given your self some space to move on. You are still stuck in the past and it doesn’t have to be that way.
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So how do you stop the obsession of stalking the one who has moved on without you and is probably with someone else?
It’s simple. STOP. Okay, may be not that simple because it’s a matter that touches the heart and lingering love is also in the mix. And we know how tricky these things can be. Don’t we?
But…stop asking your friends, stop asking his friends, stop asking your mutual friends, stop checking their social media accounts, Instagram, Facebook and what have you. Make up your mind to move on.
Don’t get stuck in the past. Give yourself an opportunity to bounce back by cutting off from all those things or anything that holds you back from progressing in your healing.
I understand we are all humans and as humans, we are emotional beings and it’s even worse when you are the one jilted.
Your one desire now might even be to find ways to make your way back to your Ex but in your quest to find reasons to go back to be with him, don’t forget this one thing- what led to the breakup in the first place.
Letting go of an Ex- especially one you loved so dearly with all of your heart may seem impossible, but you can do it.
There’s nothing wrong in allowing yourself sometime to grieve over this person, cry if you need to. Feel free to remember the past you both shared, this is absolutely normal but if it’s beginning to take too long, it’s probably taking too much.
To move on:
1. Admit it
Admit that you love this person, and this person you love with all of your heart is gone. Ouch! it hurts! It’s hard, I know, but this is the new normal, admit it.
2. Get rid of any thing that reminds you of your Ex
This is especially true for things you consider personal. Throw out those gifts, pictures, emails, text messages, letters whatever it is. This could really help you in your next step of moving on, especially if you broke up on a not too friendly note.
3. Get busy
Get engaged in other activities. Try to think about other things and meet with new people. Go out and play.
4. Focus on you
Do things that would make you a better you, for yourself and the next person you would most likely meet because you would meet someone else at some point later and you have to be ready.
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5. Look forward to better times ahead
Be excited about the future days ahead because they are coming and you are better off being prepared and ready when that time comes. Enjoy your singleness and make the best of it before you get married…if that’s something you desire.
6. Validate yourself
Don’t let what someone thinks of you be your validation. Remember you are enough and do that for you.
7. Be bold and confident
Hold your head high for this too shall pass. Don’t let anything or anyone hold you back.
What ever you decide to do, let moving on be one of your options. Remember, moving on depends totally on you and how long it will take to move on from where you’re currently at, also depends on you. You don’t have to remain there.
Just. Press. Reset. You will be okay.
Bonus Tips:
1. Ask yourself if you would be able to cope if your Ex comes back into your life.
2. Can you forgive?
3. Stop checking in to see what he is currently doing.
4. Stop comparing yourself with who he decided to go with.
5. Take a moment to picture your life without your Ex in it and see the endless possibilities…see how beautiful it could be -if only you would allow it?
6. Never say never. You can do it…yes you can.
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