Marriage as you already know is not a walk in the park if you are not ready to put in what it takes to make it work.
There was a discussion by women (yes!) who noticed that their home had taken a hit when they began to observe some things in their respective marriages. So what are some of the red flags that show your marriage is under duress (which alerted these women). Here’s what they said:
Signs That Show Your Marriage Is On A Brink
1. When I was excited for him to leave for training and dread him coming home
If your spouse is away and you are over the moon but as his time to return draws near, you feel like running away from your own home or you feel very sad or depressed that’s a huge sign.
2. Your spouse always finds a way to hurt you
When situations arise and all your spouse is after is trying to make sure you are to blame without taking responsibility for their actions and you are also giving way under the weight of sadness, that is a red flag.
3. I wasn’t happy anymore and I was done fighting for our relationship
When you are no longer willing to do what it takes to make your marriage work and you just don’t care about what happens to your marriage or may be you secretly wish your marriage fails but you don’t want to be the one to call for a divorce to “keep your mind at peace”, it is a sign.
4. When I was happier whenever he is not around
If your spouse is on a trip no matter how short it is and you are way happier being home alone than when he is around with you or if you find you get bored very easily or become crabby when he is around, that’s a red flag.
Related: How Emotionally Distant Couple Can Survive A Broken Marriage
Related: Is Social Media Killing Your Relationships?
5. Verbal abuse keeps escalating
When you can no longer have civilized conversations between each other without tearing each other down or using hurtful, demeaning or degrading words, it is a sign.
6. Feeling alone feels better than being with your spouse
When you feel comfortable overall without your spouse being with you. If it makes no difference to you whether or not your spouse is around, that’s a red flag.
Related: 10 Things That Destroy Sexual Intimacy In Marriage
7. Not trying to come to a resolve and won’t make efforts to change
If the situation is so bad that there’s no resolution of your conflicts in sight and there’s an unwillingness to change to make things better and easier. That’s a sign.
8. When you lose respect for each other
When you are comfortable putting each other down both privately and publicly, not caring what you portray to others of what your marriage has become, that’s a sign.
9. Feeling totally numb
When nothing your spouse does surprises you anymore and you are ready to roll with it either ways. When you start having the thought of that saying: “Let the cards fall where they may?” that’s a sign.
10. When you feel like you have lost yourself
When you look around and you don’t recognize who you are any more or you notice that you are struggling to find your identity because of the things that have happened to you in your marriage, that’s another sign.
If you feel you need counseling or therapy you could see one around your vicinity or see the one here. If you think you are in danger, please contact the local authorities closest to you.
Need aids to help your marriage? Check out this Resource page.
Bonus:
-When you begin to secretly wish you were single or never married…that’s a sign.
Pin me for later!
Would you like to take your relationship a notch ahead? Get my Free E-book : “The Love Recipe For Successful Relationships”
