Are you dating or about to plunge into the world of dating?
When thinking of dating or while in a dating relationship, what’s on your checklist before taking a dive?
Interestingly, many look out for both significant and insignificant qualities but some of the things they look out for, end up in regrets years down the line because they were looking for the wrong things and in the wrong places too.
So what are some of the things that you should actually be paying attention to?
1. No one can love you better than you
Love you. That’s the first rule. If you don’t love yourself and all that you are, you cannot love someone else. Also, it may be difficult for you to receive love or even recognize it when it comes around. If the person you see in the mirror is not the one you want to see, change what needs to be changed to become all that you are meant to be. Don’t wait for someone else to come by, hoping they would help fix all that needs to be fixed in you. Fix you yourself and fix you now.
2. Pay attention to your date’s childhood experiences and upbringing
Bad experiences go along way in affecting a person’s thought process. An individual’s upbringing goes a lot in molding not just the life of that person but it also affects the people they meet along the way in life- particularly the one they end up dating or eventually get married to (their kids are also not spared). Is there some unforgiveness or bitterness lingering from the past, this could impact your relationship greatly in a negative way.
3. Don’t force it, walk away when it doesn’t feel right
Are you currently in a relationship and your gut feeling is screaming “run!” but you have for whatever reason chosen to stay? You know it doesn’t feel right, you probably even know it isn’t right. Why are you still there? Follow your intuition. If it doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t right. If it’s not doing you or your relationship any good, it’s time to let go before it’s too late.
4. The first time your date shows you who they are…believe them
Are you making excuses for bad behavior? Have you told yourself that it’s all your fault or that you are just imagining things or that things are not the way they seem and you are just tagging along while suffering in silence? You know deep down this is not going to be good. Don’t compound the problem. Save yourself early enough from a heartbreak.
5. Don’t waste time trying to change your date
Are you hoping or do you believe you have the magic wand to make your date make a 360 degree change? Remember this is a full grown adult fully formed and set in their ways. If anyone is going to change, trust me it’s not going to be you that would do the changing. Unfortunately, no matter how bad you wish you could do this, you don’t have that power.
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6. Look beyond the words, pay attention to your date’s actions
Do the words you hear or told by your date align with what you see or how you are being treated? Stop making excuses and pay attention to the actions you see. Make sure they align if you want to be truly happy.
7. Always create boundaries
Boundaries and more boundaries. Respect yourself and others will follow suit. Know your worth and let others know that you know what you are worth. Don’t let your date treat you less or make you feel inadequate. You are worth more than you know.
8. There’s no such thing as a perfect person or relationship
Are you looking for the perfect person, someone who has it all? If you find such a date, great! But if it’s not a “whole package” remind yourself that it’s only so for now. As long as your date has a vision and you can see the potential of what the future could be when all is harnessed and processed together, don’t wait…the package will come with time -just as you dreamt of and imagined it.
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9. Remember people get into dating relationships for different reasons. Find out why
Why does your date want you? It might not be for the reason you think or hoped. Find out why he wants you. There are billions of people in the world. Why did he choose you?
10. Put God first
If you choose to do this, you can’t go wrong.
Happy dating!
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