What To Do When You Feel You Are Losing Yourself

Have you been at a point in life where it seems you are losing yourself? You look at your self, assess the past few or many years of life, and see that you are fast becoming a ghost of yourself and you wonder why what is happening, is happening to you.

This may have been as a result of different life circumstances you have experienced, the relationships around you, what someone has told you about yourself (in a negative light and you have taken as gospel or your daily song), your work place or may be even in your marriage.

If you struggle to find yourself when you no longer feel you are who you used to be, taking the following steps should be able to help you re calibrate and set you in motion in the right direction:

1. Retreat when you feel you are losing yourself

…but that doesn’t mean surrender.

Take a step back to introspect and rediscover yourself. This requires an inner looking or a self assessment, seeking ways to improve on you and your inner personality.

2. Ensure you avoid things that lead to such insinuations

This includes that very environment that puts you down.

Move or relocate if you have to, change your job if you have to. If you however, feel this is not a viable option because of your peculiar circumstances, ensure you block out the noise. Don’t let it get under your skin.

Do all you can to avoid situations that lead or would lead to negative talks, hurtful insinuations, or things generally that try to put you under or drown you out.

Also, take what people say about you (whether good or bad) with a pinch of salt.

3. Don’t be afraid to take a leap

Ask yourself when you feel you are losing yourself : “What am I afraid of? Being left alone? Fear of failure, being laughed at or not taken seriously?”

Taking a leap of faith when everything and everyone around you scream the opposite is daunting. YES. But it’s not as bad as you think. Whatever you feel is insurmountable should actually propel you towards your dream to become who you are meant to be.

If you feel you cannot do it alone, consider joining a group or getting an accountability partner to keep you on your toes if need be.

4. Rebrand yourself to be who you are meant to be

This could be a whole package.

A total overhaul but this time, for good. Rebrand yourself by making adjustments where needed, improving on what you already have and challenging yourself to do better.

How do you go about this?

By engaging in things like professional improvement or growth, getting that degree, learning a trade or hands on skills that can help you with your positioning to achieve that goal and bring you closer to your dreams.

If there’s anything you must become, it should be a better version of yourself and nothing less.

5. Know your worth

Worth means value. Know your value when you feel you are losing yourself. If you don’t, abuse is inevitable. This includes both self abuse and abuse by others.

What value do you place on yourself?

6. Discover Purpose

Many people think that discovering one’s purpose is a mirage or some mystery that cannot be attained. Finding your purpose in life is as simple as doing exactly what you love and enjoy doing without thinking too much while also having a good or positive impact on others.

Purpose is simply enwrapped in that very thing you do effortlessly. Once you can discover what this thing is, all you need to do is to follow that path and harness that gifting and you are well on your way to fulfilling your purpose in the world.

7. Be conscious of your relationships

There are some ride or die relationships like some people or friends you are not in touch with daily or as often, but when you do, it’s like there was never a gap and they never left.

While there are some others you wish would just let you be, but would rather still hang around even when it’s obvious it’s time to move on. Choose your friends and the people you hang out with consciously and wisely. A lot depends on it.

8. Be determined to be who and all you are meant to be

Anything that was intended to take you out but failed to do so, can and should only make you stronger and tougher to face what else lies ahead of you.

No matter how difficult or rocky the road may be, never, ever give up. Make up your mind to be all you are meant to be. Climb every mountain to get to your dreams and as long as those means are legitimate, you should be on your way to fulfilling them.

9. Talk to a trusted friend or counselor

When you are down and you feel like quitting, talking to someone who cares about your well being could go a long way in helping you overcome some of the obstacles on your way. A problem shared is half solved.

Don’t forget to also pray for direction.

10. Choose Happy

Be happy. It’s as simple as that.

Take Away

Are you losing yourself? You don’t have to remain there.

Rooting for you!

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