Are you interested in building close friendships?
Perhaps there’s someone you like whether at your office, church or may be it’s someone you recently met at a party or social gathering whose thoughts keep you up at night.
You know the real deal -You can’t sleep no matter how hard you try and when you eventually do, you still find yourself dreaming about them. You would love to build a close friendship and connection with them so bad but you don’t know how to go about it.
Should you go say hi? Should you get their number from someone else? Should you talk to their siblings or should you just take a leap of faith and go to their parents? – depending on the kind of relationship that exists between your family and theirs.
Haha!
Whichever category you find yourself, these are 5 things you can do:
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5 Effective Ways To Build Close Friendships
1. Be willing to make a move
When it comes to relationships or building close friendships, the willingness to make a move should be top priority and there should be no room for second guessing.
And seriously, you would really have to do it yourself because no one else would do it for you- at least not the same way you would have done it.
2. Don’t be shy or timid about building close friendships
Okay…you want her to be your girlfriend. Be bold and go for gold-your gold. Don’t be shy.
Think about it, this is a matter that touches your heart and it’s very important to you. Don’t let your being shy stop you from getting what you think you deserve.
Why torture yourself in silence? Don’t be shy! Walk up and talk up. It doesn’t get any better than that.
3. Don’t overthink it
Wondering what the person would say to you, think of you or how they would respond to you by their body language or words shouldn’t stop you.
If you want to be friends with them, overthinking could make you talk yourself out of it. If you know you really want the friendship, just take the plunge and don’t look back. I mean what’s the worst thing that can happen? The person says no?
And that’s okay but how would you know if you don’t try? Just go ahead and give it a shot.
4. Do a shared activity
This one is often overlooked.
Doing a shared activity or something you both have shared interests in, is actually a good place to start.
Find out something you both like to do and do it. This helps you to get talking and know each other better. Who knows? You might just be able to take it a notch ahead from there.
5. Be persistent
Do this but in a good way and be respectful of their space- though you are in love, you wouldn’t want a restraining order or an injunction levied against you.
Say what?!
An injunction is a court order that asks you to refrain from doing something or forces you into doing something. When an injunction restrains you, it’s called a restraining order. This protective injunction is granted in court to protect against stalkers and this includes cyber stalking as well.
You would want to take it slow and be tactical about it.
If you really want the friendship, you go for it, don’t hold any thing back. Let persistence do the job for you but don’t go overboard.
4 Things persistence Will do For You To Get Close To That Special Person
1. It makes the person wonder what you really want by hanging around
Perhaps you’ve wondered why some people just want to be in places where you are at any given time?
They usually want to know your every move and be right there and probably on time too. You could call it stalking… it’s called persistence. Haha!
If you are the one being persistent, ensure however that it doesn’t become an obsession that could let the one you love change their mind about you- by not wanting to have anything at all to do with you.
Just try to strike a balance and you should be fine.
2. It makes this special person feel appreciated, loved and wanted
When someone is seeking love, wanting to be around them fulfills that very desire and they love you for it-even if they don’t show it.
3. It makes the person conscious of you enough to decide if they really want to be close to you
Being around someone long enough without actually saying what you want could only bring confusion to your friendship if you are seeking to take it a step ahead.
But now that the person is aware of your presence, don’t keep them guessing, go ahead and speak up.
#4. It delivers what you seek
Persistence means not giving up in the face of rejection or difficulty.
If you continue in your pursuit long enough, you will achieve exactly what you want- signed, sealed and delivered.
Before you go, check out the bonus tip below and book mark it. You would need it for later:
Bonus Tip: 22 Conversation starters with the one you are interested in
1. What are your most fun things to do?
2. Do you like to travel?
3. Do you like surprise parties? Have you ever had one?
4. Tell me about your best friend.
5. What makes you happy?
6. Who is your kind of guy?
7. What’s your favorite theater? Why do you like it?
8. Tell me about something you would like me to know.
9. What’s your definition of an ideal guy?
10. Do you consider yourself an introvert or extrovert?
11. What do you believe in?
12. Do you like meeting people?
13. What kind of food do you like?
14. What’s your best place to eat?
15. Do you like adventures?
16. Tell me about your childhood memories.
17. Do you prefer to drive or fly?
18. What gets you discouraged?
19. Do you like clubbing or going to parties?
20.What gets on your nerves?
21. Do you like to talk about your age?
22. What makes your world go round?
Have you ever found yourself in love? Did you give up? Did you go for it? How did you handle it? Let me know in the comments.
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